What is real love about? Love is constantly happening. Love endures all things, including boring nights in front of the television, sick days where intimacy is the last thing on your mind, and even full-blown and painful arguments. There is a great deal of sacrifice in real life relationships, the likes of which are rarely shown in movies or covered in books. Love is very real. Real people with real emotions fall in love. You should never be so enamored with the ideal of love that you fail to appreciate the real thing. Perfection is unattainable. Romance isn't perfectly choreographed, nor do happy endings always turn out from complication. Don't go looking for some perfect ideal that doesn't exist. Love in the here and now.
A Fine Balance
The answer is to try and find the best balance between realism and idealism. You want to love a partner that is close to your ideal; someone that whose company you enjoy. On the other hand, you also want to find a partner that neatly fits into your world. Setting your sights on someone nearly unattainable - whether a celebrity, or a married person, or someone from a very different culture and lifestyle - may not be realistic thinking. It's easy to say that love conquers all, but it's important to keep a realistic perspective of your own life and that of your partners.
Money, age differences, opposing ideologies, even extended family are all issues that can test a relationship. Keep in mind that not everyone is able to sacrifice their life for love, or follow their heart instead of their logical mind. Some people marry just for passion while others marry for convenience. It's up to you to discern what your partner really wants and up to you to determine how much you're willing to sacrifice to make the relationship work.
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